Letting go

A martial arts beginner went to a teacher and said earnestly: “I’m devoted to studying. How long will it take me to become a master?” The teacher replied, “Ten years.” Angrily the novice said, “But I want to get there faster than that. I’ll work hard. I’ll practise every day – for hours if I have to. How long will it take then?” The teacher thought for a moment and replied, “Twenty years.”

Sometimes we need to let things unfold in their own time. Being too demanding on ourselves can create a block: we fail to see what is around us because we are staring too intently. A gentler glance may reveal more.

Mindfulness is like that. So too I think is growing a relationship.

In a world where we may feel we always need to work harder and longer, it is a relief to know that at times we do indeed just need to let things unfold. As we become at ease, we start to see more clearly. We get further by ‘doing’ less!

This is Mindful Monday on 21 September 2020.

Look out for dates of virtual mindfulness sessions on zoom starting in October.

Letting go

Letting go

Summer is often the time for exam results for many young people and some not so young. It is the moment of finding out whether hard work has paid off and you can proceed with the next step as you had planned or need to think again.

Sometimes there is a clear link between hard work and achieving a good result; sometimes there isn’t a clear link.

Here’s a story:

A martial arts student says to their teacher, “I am devoted to study. How long will it take me to become a master?” The teacher replied, “Ten years.”

Impatient the student said, “But I will work hard. I will practice every day for hours and hours. How long will it take then?” The teacher replied, “Twenty years.”

Mindfulness is like that. We need to let things unfold. When we are impatient for a particular result, our understanding will be clouded. We will be frustrated.

Mindfulness is about letting go, not trying harder. As we do this, our understanding of ourselves and those around us will deepen. As well as becoming more physically, mentally and emotionally aware, we may also find ourselves more spiritually aware.

I know that letting go in itself ain’t easy – but it is nice not to have to tell yourself to try harder!

This is Mindful Monday on 2 September 2019.

Join Julie Hill and Sara Shailer for an evening of mindfulness on the theme of each of our uniqueness on Monday 16 September at 7.30 to 9 pm at the Oasis, Cheltenham. There is no charge but you do need to book in advance. To book email hello@essencecheltenham.org. Looking forward to welcoming you!