Your view of you

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I shared last week on a golden rule for living accepted across religions and cultures: ‘Do to others as you would have them do to you’. Or in more up-to-date language: ‘Treat everyone you meet as if they were you’ (see here for that post).

Reflecting on the golden rule has made me think about how we treat or view ourselves. If our own view of ourselves (our self-image) is poor, are we likely inadvertently to treat others poorly? Equally we don’t want to think of ourselves too highly; we don’t want to be arrogant. We might then treat others poorly because we think of ourselves as better than them!

It seems that a healthy view of ourselves is ideal for the golden rule to work. But what is a healthy view? Based on what?

Some say love is blind. I am not convinced. My sense is that love is accepting (not blind). When we truly love someone we seek to accept them as they are, faults and all.

Knowing that we are loved is part of developing a healthy view of ourselves. But while some of us may have loving friends and family, some of us won’t.

For me, there is a love above all loves. It is the love of the Creator who made each of us; it’s love divine. It makes me and you children of God, loved with our faults and all.

You may or may not share my belief but it keeps me on a journey of learning how to better treat others – others who are also children of God – loved as I am loved.

Notice what influences you in how you see yourself – and how that makes you interpret the golden rule for living.

This is Mindful Monday on 29 June 2020.



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Numerous people are attributed as saying ‘We are human beings, not human doings.’ And just sometimes when many people say the same things, it is because it has truth within it.

Sometimes we put our value in what we do. This might be how busy our diary is, how many others we help, how hard we work, how much we earn, how fit we are.

What if . . . we practised just being? This would mean we don’t put value on what we do but value who we are. A bit like children do. Just be.

This is Mindful Monday on 12 November 2018.

If you live in or near Cheltenham, we meet for an evening of mindfulness of Monday 3 December on the theme of ‘growing in joy’. Join us if you can by booking your place in advance.