“You’ve had so much strife but you’re always happy. How do you do it?”
“I choose to. I can leave myself to rot in the past, spend my time hating people for what happened, like my father did, or I can forgive and forget.”
The reply comes, “But it’s not easy.”
To which the response is “Oh, but my treasure, it is so much less exhausting. You only have to forgive once. To resent, you have to do it all day, every day. You have to keep remembering all the bad things. I would have to make a list, a very, very long list and make sure I hated the people on it the right amount . . . ! No, we always have a choice. All of us.”
This is a conversation in a novel I read recently (more details here).
I was struck by the conversation because it resonates with another thing I have been reading. It is about having compassion, being kind, gentle and patient – and once again forgiving others but here for the reason that we too can be forgiven (more details here).
It is a choice. It isn’t an easy choice. We may need divine help to forgive but truly it is a less exhausting choice.
Thanks for the loan of the book Jo!
This is Mindful Monday on 1 October 2018.
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